Things to Think About While Dating a Cheater

Many claim they would not consider dating someone who has cheated in the past.  Yet, it is also possible for you to date someone who has cheated but you’re unaware they did it in their past.  There are dozens of saying about cheaters such as: “Once a cheater always a cheater,” and “If they cheated before they may do it again to you.” There are a variety of reasons why one cheats on another but depending on their past, why would you consider dating a cheater?

With so many reasons why a person cheats, many wonder why a person would even consider dating one.  Some who date someone who has cheated feel they can change that person.  Yet, many feel you are just asking to be cheated on yourself. There are people who feel they can look beyond a person’s past and focus on positive qualities about them.  Whether it is for good looks or funny personality, yet it becomes a different story if the person has cheated on you multiple times.  What does that say?

Something else to think about is what is considered cheating? Does a person have to sleep with another person in order to be called a cheater? What if your partner just kissed another person? What if you caught your partner flirting with another person? Cheating may be considered a physical act but some get hurt emotionally when learning their partner is being secretly intimate with someone they both know.

What are reasons why people cheat? When you think about this it is likely a lot of myths come to mind.  While some may be true it often depends on people involved in the situation.  Some feel men cheat more than women but this may not be true.  Another common reason why people believe a person cheats includes not being happy at home.  This may have some validity but if you are taking care of things in your relationship to the best of your ability, this may not be a reason for someone to cheat.  Even though a person may be happy at home and getting pleased in the bedroom, some who cheat may not like “perfection.” Meaning, it may not always be about sex but they could be lacking something they are not getting from their relationship.

Can a cheater be in love with you and still cheat? This is actually another myth: if someone cheats on you they don’t love you or have feelings for you.  This, believe it or not, may not be true.  A person can have feelings for you and even love you, yet for them to cheat on you basically means they may not have respect for you.

If a person is sleeping with their ex-lover but dating you, you would consider this cheating right? The cheater may not think so.  Since they have been with this person before in their past they may think that hooking up with them again is no big deal, even though they are in a new relationship.  While it’s nice to have honesty in any relationship, for most people, learning their partner cheated on them is a red flag to end or cut off the relationship even before it starts.